Faith, children, money and home: the conversations to have before you commit

Most couples who separate do not fall out over small things. They discover, too late, that they disagreed about something large all along.

Before you commit, talk about faith: how you practise it, and how you would raise children in it. Talk about children: whether you want them, how many, and how soon. Talk about money: debt, saving, giving, and who manages what.

Talk about home: where you want to live, how close to family, and how you will share the work of a household. Talk about work and ambition, and what you would each do if one career had to come first.

Cherished asks about these subjects on your profile so they can come first rather than last. Agreement on all of them is not required; honesty about all of them is.