Involving parents and mentors without handing over the decision

People who hold traditional values often want their parents, a pastor or a trusted mentor involved in choosing a spouse. That wisdom is valuable, and it works best when everyone knows their role.

Decide early whom you will involve and how. Will they meet the person? Speak with their family? Simply pray with you and offer counsel? The final decision is yours, and saying so clearly keeps the relationships healthy.

On Cherished you can name a guardian, such as a parent or mentor, from your profile. They can sign agreements with you through a secure link, and if they create an account they see only what you allow.

Introduce the people who matter to you early in a courtship. How someone treats your family tells you a great deal about the marriage you would have.